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“Show Positive to receive Positive” part 4: Positive Thinking & Conclusions

Now we are reaching the end of our workshop and it is time to focus on the third key word: positive thinking.

Let’s keep it simple, the more positive our word choice is, the faster our expectations will be fulfilled. You don’t believe me? Just try once; you have nothing to lose, on the contrary if you open this door of opportunity a whole new perspective will stand in front of your eyes.

The reason was stated in the previous session by underlying assertiveness as a fundamental element in the vocabulary of any leader; and by assertive we mean positive as well. If I change the focus of my work from what my students lack of, to what my students actually have; every single instruction I give in class will be welcome. Why? Because I will be talking about something they understand and moreover, something they can perform.

I am not saying that you will foster people to work inside their comfort zone; on the contrary I am suggesting a new perspective when making the invitation to go further. If your words sound convincing enough, you have no idea how much influence they will have in people’s lives and performance, especially if you are talking to someone who respects you.

So think positive not only about yourself, but also when you think about others and you will become the mirror where they see themselves in all their potential and that is just great.

Now I invite to see this video and I really hope you enjoy it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2GunVwl6K4M

Conclusions:

  • We have learned how to deal better with negative attitude in different social environments where we interact every day.
  • Now we can build good rapport with people which is essential for a good teaching/working environment.
  • Finally we became aware of the power of our words, and now we will use them positively.

Stay positive…you never know when you will need an extra smile.

Marjorie Hernandez

“Show positive to receive positive” part 3 : Telling the Truth

Hello again and welcome back to our workshop. Up to now we have been talking about the importance of being a positive role model to anyone we get in touch with, especially if we are in a position of leadership. We have also seen how important and useful is to work as a mirror where people can see their strengths instead of their weaknesses. However, it is important to underline that it doesn´t mean we are not going to tell them when things are not going well.

On the contrary, we have to let them know about their mistakes and that is when choosing the right words will give us a whole new perspective, because we have to tell our students the truth by all means. Let´s think about this scenario, imagine you are leading a group which doesn´t reach the general expectations for its level but works very hard and tries to overcome its difficulties. That group needs support more than criticism and is exactly in that moment when being assertive will change the outcome for good.

 Instead of telling them “This work in mediocre” why not trying with “There are some standards we must reach and we will review them together to be clear. Then we will work in teams to reach our goals together”.  We are not loosing perspective here, we are just changing the focus from one that puts mistakes under the spotlight, to another that prefers to take advantage from individual strengths.

Obviously this is not the magic answer for all the problems of people we deal with, but it can help us to manage some difficult situations and it makes our jobs easier. An additional hint: try to personalize your comments whenever you talk to someone you are in charge of. Use their names, ask for personal things you know about them and that are not necessary related to work, be spontaneous and use anything that you feel comfortable with, but personalizing our comments will make other see the humanity in you. It helps to release stress.

Show positive to receive positive – part 2: The Mirror has two Faces

 

Last week we were talking about the two personalities we may have. Let’s start with the first one: the ugly face.

This is one of my faces, and as rude as it sounds who can raise your hand and say that has NEVER felt that way. There are many reasons for us to be frustrated in the classroom:  personal problems, the response of our students (or the lack of it which is worse), the stress around us, etc this is all true, but you know what? This is not our students´ business. They come to us because they want something specific: to learn from us. That is why we can´t afford feeling overwhelmed by our emotions. From the moment we cross the door of a classroom we have a huge responsibility, to hold in our hands someone else´s dreams and fears. And that deserves respect.

On the other hand, when we are happy everything seems brighter and easier,and that is when we show our second face: the happy face. When we are open to our student’s needs and limitations they are opened to us too. Did you realize that is on those special moments when our students perform better? And by “better”, I don´t mean “perfect” because it´s important to keep ourselves real. We have to evaluate each person considering his own and unique abilities. Other wise we are going to end up frustrated, and when the teacher is frustrated the consequences for the students will be devastating.

At this point I invite to visit the link below before keep on reading. It is about the  research Dr Masaru Emoto has carried out about the power of words: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8

Now after watching this video you can believe it or not, but who can´t deny that at some point of you life the words someone told us change the course of our actions, in a positive or in a negative way. Do you remember the last time someone thanked you for something you have done? Or when out of the blue one of your students,  maybe the one that never said anything in class suddenly approaches to you and says that you helped him in a way you didn´t realize. Do you remember how does it feel? That is my point, words are powerful, and especially when they come from someone we trust. So from now on we have to choose our words more carefully when talking to a student or to anybody.

Show positive to receive positive: Introduction

During the following days I will share with you a series of posts that were part of a workshop given in 2010 as part of the V Teaching Development Conference, in Lima, Peru. It was called “Show positive to receive positive” and it was related to classroom management. However, I am sure you will find many of its tips applicable to your every day life.

The aims of this workshop were the following:

1) Identify the importance of a positive first impression in our teaching environment.

2) How to deal with “difficult” classroom settings acting like a mirror.

3) How to use the power of positive words in everyday life.

If you want to build up a safe environment inside your classroom for you and your students, there are three key words to keep in mind: Role model, truth and positive thinking.

Now you may ask yourself why I should consider all those things? Well, because in the first place we are teachers and then we can be ourselves. And you may add that you have the right to feel sick, sad, or angry, and you may be right but when you choose to be a teacher you choose more than a regular job you decide on a way of life with certain implications. And that is when these key words start playing its part in our teaching.

Let’s face it, as uncomfortable as it is: we are role models. It doesn´t matter if we are teaching adults or kids all students will look up to you before doing anything. Now the question is: What kind of role model I am?  And the answer is simple I´m a psychotic one, why? Because I have 2 personalities. Do you want to know more about them?  If so, I invite you to follow our next post “The Mirror has two Faces” where we will have the chance to go deeper into this topic.