Last week we were talking about the two personalities we may have. Let’s start with the first one: the ugly face.
This is one of my faces, and as rude as it sounds who can raise your hand and say that has NEVER felt that way. There are many reasons for us to be frustrated in the classroom: personal problems, the response of our students (or the lack of it which is worse), the stress around us, etc this is all true, but you know what? This is not our students´ business. They come to us because they want something specific: to learn from us. That is why we can´t afford feeling overwhelmed by our emotions. From the moment we cross the door of a classroom we have a huge responsibility, to hold in our hands someone else´s dreams and fears. And that deserves respect.
On the other hand, when we are happy everything seems brighter and easier,and that is when we show our second face: the happy face. When we are open to our student’s needs and limitations they are opened to us too. Did you realize that is on those special moments when our students perform better? And by “better”, I don´t mean “perfect” because it´s important to keep ourselves real. We have to evaluate each person considering his own and unique abilities. Other wise we are going to end up frustrated, and when the teacher is frustrated the consequences for the students will be devastating.
At this point I invite to visit the link below before keep on reading. It is about the research Dr Masaru Emoto has carried out about the power of words: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8
Now after watching this video you can believe it or not, but who can´t deny that at some point of you life the words someone told us change the course of our actions, in a positive or in a negative way. Do you remember the last time someone thanked you for something you have done? Or when out of the blue one of your students, maybe the one that never said anything in class suddenly approaches to you and says that you helped him in a way you didn´t realize. Do you remember how does it feel? That is my point, words are powerful, and especially when they come from someone we trust. So from now on we have to choose our words more carefully when talking to a student or to anybody.